My Ass has an Opinion !!!

This morning , I logged into my Facebook ( I have to stress this , as I felt like I was opening somebody else's account ) .. I was taken aback , unsure if  I could relate to people in India/ their thoughts .. Since these are on my FB they aren't strangers I bloody know them but can't quiet figure out WTF runs in their head .. And I'm sure they think the same about me !!
I can only see aggression with every single post .. I can see wanting to fight for women equality and voicing their opinions loud and clear ( which is good ) .. I can see anger towards everything the politicians say and sharing and echoing what few FAMOUS people say ( I'm not sure if a celebrity has the same IQ as a scientist and if the youth should follow and idolise and quote everything they post ).

I see them fight over every thing that gets taken out of internet and claim it to be their right .There should be rules , every parent must ensure the kids follow rules not because " log kya kehenge ( what will ppl say ) but because man is a social animal and needs to live in society with dignity ...same way govt has to come up with rules and censor stuff and take off few offending things as India is a country with still 50% below poverty line ..who don't know wat is right and wat happens in the internet world ( this is a separate topic altogether and I might need 2 pages to comment on that ) .. My point here is we can't post naked pics saying - " my body .. My right " for next min , your pic will be in a porn site !!
There is a thin line between what is right and what is your Right !!

People today seem to have lost their sense of humour , everything seems like a subject to argue about and fight over nothing .

Is the pressure to be free and liberated too much on the youth today that they have to pretend to sound cool and act cool ?? If you aren't physically and mentally free the whole crap you post on FB is meaningless . It really doesn't matter what u wear or where you travel or how you look .. If u think crappy you will always be a messed up piece of shit .... No matter what u post and pretend to have an (stolen) opinion .If you can't stick to your opinion .. Pls don't give one !!

Marriage and finances

I came across this article , which spoke about a list of financial  guidelines for ppl about to get married .. I was young n super innocent , didn't  look or care abt finances .. I used to earn peanuts  n had  literally nothing in my bank account and there I was going to be married and I fell for my husband when he said " I have  no bank balance , I am working hard to make it big .. Have plans of on site  and I'm sure one day I will make it " .. Very filmy n stupid u might say but trust me at that moment it felt perfect .. No one had ever spoken their heart out with such honesty in their eyes .

Today,  I look back n laugh at my stupidity most of the times we argue related to finances .. He wants to invest / take risks and I want a debt free life .. I do not want any  financial commitments .. I have a simple dream n wanna lead a simple life ... Never ever dreamt of living in luxuries coz I  dnt want it ..:) .. Not unless I win a lotto then I wanna spend n live a luxurious life  :)

My Prince Charming !

My 4 year old is just a perfect charmer .. He speaks the right words and knows how to win a woman .. Trust me on that .. Here are some of the things he's said to me and it has melted me ..
" mummy I love you to the moon , to the stars and all the way back to the earth "
" mummy , you make the best pasta .. Can you pls teach nadia( the school cook) "
"Mummy I do not want you to grow old and get walking stick "
" I love you the most in this whole wide world "
" mummy you look so beautiful .. You should leave your hair and put some lipstick all the time "
" mummy you look like a princess in this dress , please buy it "

Love my baby .. Gosh I hate tht he's growing up so quick !!

Murphy's law

Murphy was indeed a smart guy .. No one would have thought of blaming all the screwups in our life to some law of nature !! 

Every time I run to the station and manage to reach on time , I  notice the train delayed by exactly 5 min , had I walked and saved on my energy , 100% chances are the train would have reached on time without delay and in the process i would have missed the train !! 

Today I left my desk and started rushing to catch my evening train back home , the lift took extra 2 min than usual time , I met a colleague on my way out and spent 3 more min conversing , I bid bye to everyone and started to run when the signal just turned red and I had to wait for 5 min to cross the road and finally after all the huffing and puffing , I reached the station just in time to see my train leave !!

Tho I was annoyed , very mad at the entire proceedings , I decided to blame it on Murphy !! 

Brown ??

Okay I must admit , I did not consider myself to be brown .. I thought I was wheatish !! Yes honest to god , if you don't believe go to India millions of them claim to be wheatish !! I did not know the colour of my skin tone until I was of the marriageable age and ppl would ring my parents and ask them to describe me and my mom would sit on the phone and tell them my height and my education and where I was working and then I would hear her say wheatish complexion and then she would look for me and make me apply turmeric and milk cream on my face and tell me it would improve my skin tone -Trust me it did nothing !!

Then I travelled to US on work and heard ppl say white / black and brown - well I was told I can't use the word black it was offensive . How come no one told them using the term brown was offensive too .. I was wheatish and not Brown !!

However my son thinks he's white .. Try beating that !!

Mother's Day - thank you note to a beautiful child !!

Over the years,I have had my doubts if I did the right job being a perfect mum, but looking at how my son has turned out to be he has put all my doubts to rest. I have been a vivid hater of mums who praise their kids but never in my wildest dream did I think I wud start doing the same . 

Every Mother's Day I have received hand prints : flowers , drawings . This year got a card , where my 4 yr olds teacher asked him why he loves his mom : this is what he said " I love my mom because I love her !! She cooks yummy food and takes me to the parks and loves being silly with me " there were drops of tears rolling outta my eyes when I read that !!

I love my son to bits , he's the best thing that has happened to me . He comes up with so many questions , I love the way his mind works , this Mother's Day he made me promise I wouldn't grow old and turn into a grand mother , he wants me to remain the way I am , jump and dance with him forever .. How cute !!!

He drew a pic of me with " jelly tummy " coz my tummy is wobbly ,let's say  that particular statement didn't go quiet well with me !!

2 days ago I had a migraine attack , had a splitting headache and was unable to sit , I couldn't believe what my son did , he put me in bed and covered me in blankets , switched off the lights and let me sleep , while he played in the other room and ate banana and waited till his dad came home to feed him . He constantly checked to see if I was sleeping .. How very considerate !! 

A few weeks ago.. I was complaining to my son on how an elderly man was advicing me and I dnt like it , my 4 year old looks up and says "mummy that's what happens if you talk to strangers , if you smile at him he will talk to you , he doesn't talk to me coz I don't smile " 

- I was dumbfound but agreed to take his advice !! 

Love thy neighbour .. Said a Moron ?

Growing up I did not realise how my neighbours were an integral part of my life .. I assumed that's how it is .. I did not realise I can show my finger and walk away from all the rubbish .. Well I wudnt have , coz I was this ideal kid who wudnt raise her voice , who would listen to everyone , never argue , would even consider what my neighbours thought I should wear . 

I was constantly compared with my neighbours marks not coz my parents made tht remark but my neighbours would stop me and ask " how much marks you scored ?" , "why so less?", "too many distractions eh ?" " my brother in laws , cousins son has scored a very good score , he's very intelligent " . 

" wear bangles , bindi , some gold on your body " , " wear a dupatta " 

No these weren't by my parents but neighbours who had no business with my life . 

If ever I was seen with a guy then mostly I  was having an affair , hence the delay in my marriage . I would make fnds park cars one mile away from my house , coz I did not want people to talk rubbish . 

Now that I've moved away from all that shit I think why did I give someone a chance to talk about me , it would have been nicer to live the way I wanted . I was dumb or rather I was part of the same society and was too scared to break away ? Unsure of the answer !!